20-year-old guy moves in with mother’s 38-year-old boyfriend, he openly disrespects the home, causing boyfriend to kick them both out: “I love her, but I can’t keep living life this”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jul 24, 2025 1:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. Relationships are never easy. They never were easy, and they're never going to be easy. Each decade has its problems. If a couple was dating 70 years ago, then the woman basically had no rights. Any couple had the expectation to basically get married super young, have children, and just live in each other's miseries. Nowadays, things should be seemingly better, but they're actually much worse. Dating apps open up a world of possibilities that were never before conceived, but it has only made things more complicated. Maybe there was a boom in dating, and relationships starting from apps. These days, it feels like the apps are just prisons that hold people back from actually being steady, stable, and committed enough to want a relationship at all. These seemingly endless possibilities turn out to be fronts, lies that walk around and exist on our phones through buttons. 

In the story below, the protagonist is a man whose at his wit's end. He's allowed his girlfriend and her son to move in with him, but we all know the discomfort when our peace is disturbed. 

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    WIBTAH if I ask my partner to move out after her adult son kept disrespecting me in my own home?

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    been troubled lately so I need some advice. I'm 38M and my girlfriend 41F moved in with me about a year ago along with her 20yr. old son. It was supposed to
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    be temporary while she figured out a new place after some stuff with her lease fell through. I didn't mind I care about her and I
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    wanted to help. I have a decent sized place and I figured we could all make it work for a while.
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    But man her son just doesn't like me. I don't know if it's personal or if he's just like this in general but from the beginning he's had this attitude super dismissive and
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    kinda arrogant. He barely says two words to me. I'll ask him something simple like hey can you take your laundry out of the dryer and he'll just stare at me or
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    say yeah whatever. He doesn't pay rent doesn't clean up after himself and acts like he's doing me a favor by just existing here.
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    I've tried talking to my girlfriend about it more than once and every time she brushes it off. Says
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    he's just stressed or adjusting" It's been a year. This isn't adjusting this is just how he acts.
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    It's gotten to the point where I dread coming home. I stay late at work, I run extra errands just to avoid being in my own house. I
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    love her but I can't keep living like this in silence. I feel like a guest in my own space. So now I'm thinking about asking her to
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    move out if his son do not move out he's 20 already. Not in a get out of my life way but just this isn't working. I still want to be with her but I need peace. I need
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    to feel like I'm not constantly being disrespected in my own home. Would I be the a h le for that? Part of me feels like I'd be
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    abandoning her but another part of me feels like I'm letting myself be steamrolled. I don't know.
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    Riley17xx ⚫ 8h ago NTA. bro it's your house. you opened your home to help and now u can't even relax there?? nah. 20 is not a kid, and if he can't even be civil,
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    he shouldn't be living under your roof for free. asking for basic respect isn't too much
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    Key_Advice5495 • 8h ago She is enabling his laziness, you may want to take time to really think if this is the type of partner you want in life
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    Solid-Feature-7678 ⚫8h ago NTA. The fact that she allows this means the relationship is de d and they are just leaching off you at this point.
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    Tessa25xx. 8h ago It sounds like your girlfriend is enabling her son's bad behavior by brushing it off for so long. You've been
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    patient for a year, and that's more than enough. If she can't support you in creating a respectful home environment, then yes, asking her to move out makes sense
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    Low-Programmer-... 8h ago NTA. She temporarily moved in a year ago while she figured out getting a new place? You can't hate being. in your own home, so you
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    need to seriously speak with her about what is causing this, or ask them to move out.
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